Kini 'Successful Relationship'?
One of you brought this up...
'Is a successful relationship one that lasted long or that was a blast for however short it lasted?'
...and it really is a food for thought.
While I could argue both points and stress ideologies till they teeter on the point of delusion I'll keep it simple and sweet.
A successful relationship is one that was enacted at the time it was needed by both parties, supplied the value that was required to both individuals and did not outlast it's usefulness.
This doesn't just apply to romantic relationships.
Let's be honest, wayyyy too many of us are entering relationships at times that we have no business being in and cannot sufficiently nurture them. Another legion of us is entering relationships with absolutely nothing to offer than an added name to the contacts list and multiple love emojis. And the other massive third on this table is staying and holding on to relationships that no long have any use to either parties and have come to a stalemate, and frankly this nonsense is why many lives are not going to move forward.
Why bother doing anything when there is nothing to gain? Pouring time and effort into a basket venture? Your time and life and heart are not alms biko, you're a limited resource if you don't know, you can't be pouring yourself out like water, you will finish!
Of course, there are the amazing people that never stop being useful and they're also usually the ones we never stop being useful to. I'm not telling you to go and start forming scissors 'Finna cut these deads outta my life', last last you're also a massive dead, supplying no value and taking none either. I'm asking you to wake TF up and realize who you truly need, who you don't and who really needs you.
Figure out who your reals are.
I hope you read this and have sense. I've said it with my chest and the back up chests of my ride-or-die's. If you want to beat me, we gather dey.
'Is a successful relationship one that lasted long or that was a blast for however short it lasted?'
...and it really is a food for thought.
While I could argue both points and stress ideologies till they teeter on the point of delusion I'll keep it simple and sweet.
A successful relationship is one that was enacted at the time it was needed by both parties, supplied the value that was required to both individuals and did not outlast it's usefulness.
This doesn't just apply to romantic relationships.
Let's be honest, wayyyy too many of us are entering relationships at times that we have no business being in and cannot sufficiently nurture them. Another legion of us is entering relationships with absolutely nothing to offer than an added name to the contacts list and multiple love emojis. And the other massive third on this table is staying and holding on to relationships that no long have any use to either parties and have come to a stalemate, and frankly this nonsense is why many lives are not going to move forward.
Why bother doing anything when there is nothing to gain? Pouring time and effort into a basket venture? Your time and life and heart are not alms biko, you're a limited resource if you don't know, you can't be pouring yourself out like water, you will finish!
Of course, there are the amazing people that never stop being useful and they're also usually the ones we never stop being useful to. I'm not telling you to go and start forming scissors 'Finna cut these deads outta my life', last last you're also a massive dead, supplying no value and taking none either. I'm asking you to wake TF up and realize who you truly need, who you don't and who really needs you.
Figure out who your reals are.
I hope you read this and have sense. I've said it with my chest and the back up chests of my ride-or-die's. If you want to beat me, we gather dey.
Not all relationships are meant to be, neither are all relationships are meant to last forever, it is however important to make use of them while they last. For real, relationships outlive their usefulness and at times need to be severed politely and peacefully. On many occasions, life has a way of separating people and severing relationships. My submission would be to keep relationships that are worth whatever resources invested in them rather than stressing to maintain relationships that are not meant to be or that has outlived their usefulness.
ReplyDeleteIs a successful relationship one that lasted long or that was a blast for however short it lasted? Hmm, it depends in the kind of relationship though, some relationship should never be severed, but rather worked upon. While some are not even worth a drop of sweat.
ReplyDeleteThe main reason why most of us nut and bolt... No time for relationship palaver
ReplyDeleteWell, when a relationship serves it purpose, then it's successful. Doesn't have to do with how long.
ReplyDeleteWell....
ReplyDeleteWell...let me say when there is mutual understanding and emotion,the relationship is successful....it doesn't have to do with period or years being used in the relationship...When both agreed to achieve a purpose and unite with each other
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